Parenting Book Review: (Misconceptions) Truth, Lies and the Unexpected on the Journey to Motherhood

Naomi Wolf's newest book, Misconceptions, is agroup and given the title, "The Patron Saint." It is
testament to her own experiences and prejudicesobvious that Ms. Wolf is in awe of Gaskin, yet wasn't
about childbirth. Ms. Wolf shares her ownconverted by her to better educate herself and
culturally-learned fears about childbirth but fails tochoose a less interventive childbirth. It is also
recognize that this is in response to 100 years ofapparent that Ms. Wolf did not read the original
medical society propaganda. Although she has accessSpiritual Midwifery book. If she had, she would have
to research and studies documenting the safety oflearned that Ina May wasn't exactly "a self-taught,
homebirth and non-medical midwifery, she paints birthlay midwife" but that her earliest training had come
outside an institution as dangerous. She chose to givefrom an obstetrician (who also provided medication
birth with obstetricians in high risk hospitals and hadand instruments) and a local physician who provided
cesareans both times. I think the book could havefriendly back-up for years. She also would have
been more aptly titled, "(Misrepresentations) My Painlearned that the Farm clinic included a physician.It is
Phobia and Justification for My Cesareans."I heardcurious that Ms. Wolf is intrigued by free-standing
about this book through discussions on the internetbirth centers and offers them up as a perfect choice
which praised it for setting the record straight aboutfor women. She is somehow under the impression
childbirth. After looking at the book myself, however,that pain-relieving drugs are readily available for those
I have come to an entirely different conclusion. It iswho give birth at these centers, yet her depiction of
simply another book, written to justify theElizabeth Seton indicates a transport to the hospital
unwarranted use of medical intervention andfor those who wish an epidural. How this is an
sequelae, unnecessary cesareans, and excuse badimprovement over one's own home is a mystery to
maternity care decisions. Instead of accuratelyme. Perhaps it is her fascination with institutions? and
depicting birthing choices in America, Ms. Wolf usedher phobia about pain?Complete Mother readers will
this book as a vehicle to promote her own opinionsfind her descriptions of breastfeeding revolting:
and discredit traditional midwives, homebirth, full-time"become someone's addiction." And quoting Sarah
motherhood and ecological breastfeeding.Ms. WolfHardy, "once nursing begins, bondage is a perfectly
places great importance on the book "What togood description for the ensuing chain of events
Expect When You're Expecting", as though this is(and) lives on a mammary leash." How sad she didn't
some highly regarded research book or the childbirthbother to go to a Le Leche League meeting or meet
Bible. Sadly this book is written to promote thesomeone who was content breastfeeding. We can
medical model of care and justify the manyonly guess that she probably was bottle fed, and
interventions foisted upon women who choose tolacking the nurturing of being breastfed herself, is
have hospital births. She carefully goes through thecompensating by portraying breastfeeding in a dim
many routine hospital procedures and explains thelight.Her social programs which would improve the
many risks and few benefits of each, yet sheworld basically abdicate parental responsibilities to the
apparently did not believe her own research.Thosegovernment. She wants paid extended maternity
who have fought for years to eradicate theleave, tax deductions and benefits to relatives who
meaningless term "lay midwife" will immediatelycome to help the new mothers, on-site day care and
recognize Ms. Wolf's superficial understanding of birthnurseries, lots of hospital support programs, hospital
attendants. Her repeated use of this term is a clearstatistics disclosure, parentless playgrounds monitored
indicator of her lack of research and knowledge ofby "young people" so "an active, thoughtful mother,
childbirth. I half expected to see the terms "redskin"father. (won't be) uncomfortable at the playground."
or "nigger" pop up during discussion about minorityBasically she wants the government to act as nanny
statistics.She writes as a fact, "homebirth is now asso she can get her work done. "Work" being
safe as hospital birth." Now as safe? It has alwayssomething far more important than caring for her
been at least as safe! An entire book, The Fivechildren herself.Save yourself a few hours of
Standards by David Stewart, gives thousands offrustration wading through this tripe. Instead, make a
studies and statistics which conclude that homebirth ispot of raspberry leaf tea, give the older kids a fun
safer than hospital birth.I took great offense at herproject to do, put your feet up and put baby to
term, "Naturalists," (pages 182-186) to describebreast and read the books she ignored: The Five
anyone who would dare to promote or give birthStandards, Under the Apple Tree, The American
without high-technology. She explains that this optionWay of Birth, Being Born, Birth at Home, Your Baby,
"has been presented as so rigid .with such extremeYour Way, Special Delivery, Labor Pains, Silent Knife,
requirements of courage and faith. It was for thatMalpractice: How Doctors Manipulate Women,
reason that my husband and I would not consider itObstetric Myths Versus Research Realities, Gentle
as an option." I wonder, what research led her to thisBirth Choices and back-issues of The Compleat
conclusion? Judging from many comments which saltMother Magazine.Rebecca Waters is the book
her book, it would seem she is her own source ofreviewer for The Compleat Mother Magazine -
"factual" information.Anyone who promoted birthRebecca is also a contributor to Nursing Programs
without drugs is included in this Naturalist group andOnline at and to Go-Law-School at Rebecca is also a
portrayed as romanticizing the birthing event. Ina Maymother of seven and the wife of an interesting dude.
Gaskin, however, is somehow exempt from this